Also by Parul Sehgal . . .
"I first met Gaitskill on an August afternoon at her apartment
in Williamsburg, Brooklyn. She is beautiful, startlingly so —
straight-backed and contained, her body a wick of tensile energy,
her hair a silvery blond. She offered me sparkling water and
hunted down a lime — ‘'I can’t serve it to you naked,' she said . . . ."
— https://www.nytimes.com/2015/11/08/magazine/
mary-gaitskill-and-the-life-unseen.html
As for "the life unseen" . . .
https://www.onlineclarity.co.uk/reading/hexagrams/59-dispersing/